The Complicated Culture of Constant Body Shaming and Praising

Mr. Bean with a strange expression with the caption, "Is your body from McDonalds? Because I'm loving it" I've been thin, overweight, obese, skinny and 'average'. Right now I'm not where I want to be at all, but here I am. Having been in all these "categories", I have very distinctive memories of how I've… Continue reading The Complicated Culture of Constant Body Shaming and Praising

The Conflict of Contradiction

Meme with heading "Women's Magazine: Page 14: How to lose weight fast; Page 15: You're beautiful the way you are; Page 16: Cake recipe. Women (in this case, but I realize this applies to others!) are constantly bombarded with hypocritical messages. "Lose 30 pounds by summer!", a magazine headline blares as you are waiting in… Continue reading The Conflict of Contradiction

In the Silence I Found Myself

As a survivor of domestic violence and emotional abuse, I've had to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to treat me now the way I was treated in my past. Sure, there are times when there is something said that triggers a memory and makes me anxious and I may… Continue reading In the Silence I Found Myself

Putting Yourself First; YES, Really, YOU.

Recently, I was traveling alone and was getting comfortable for my flight. I was noticing all the sights and sounds around me and watching people walk past and settle in. Once everyone had taken their seats and the flight attendants were giving their speech about procedures, I noticed one particular fact that really stood out… Continue reading Putting Yourself First; YES, Really, YOU.

There is no Shame in Being a Survivor

There are some people in my life who would probably prefer that I drop the issue of my former abuse done by my late husband. There were plenty of people who knew what I was going through and they CHOSE to not intercede. Once, I was told by someone I went to for help, "NO… Continue reading There is no Shame in Being a Survivor