I read once that friends are the siblings we were never given. I've reflected upon that thought many times over the years. I feel closer to my best friend than I ever have to my only sibling. What intrudes upon my thoughts of late is the definition of friendship. Many times, I see social media… Continue reading The Never Ceasing Evolution Defining Friendship
Once in a while, when I mention to someone, "I am in therapy", I hesitate. I believe that subconsciously, my thoughts go to, "What will they think of me if I'm in therapy?" "Will they think I'm somehow damaged...broken?" "Maybe if I tell them why it will help?". Most people who know my story of… Continue reading Removing the Stigma of Therapy and The Never Ending Search for My Happy Ending
Having experienced an extraordinary amount of grief in a short period of time with the loss of both my parents and husband one after the other, I'm often asked how I "got through it" or how I "survived" it. Being that grief is such an individual process and has a fluidity not often realized until… Continue reading The Circuitous Chasm of Grief
I don't know how I can speak my opinion without being political, but I'm going to give it a try. Before I start talking about my opinion, I want it very clearly stated that I am in no way, shape, or form trying to connect anything about what happened to my previous plans nor to… Continue reading Why?
There are some people in my life who would probably prefer that I drop the issue of my former abuse done by my late husband. There were plenty of people who knew what I was going through and they CHOSE to not intercede. Once, I was told by someone I went to for help, "NO… Continue reading There is no Shame in Being a Survivor
One can still hope right? Anyway, so today is Mother's Day (in the United States that is!). Like Valentine's Day, it's just another one of those specific days that apply to a certain group of people. For me, it's a mixed bag of emotions. Flashback to the '00s. Mother's Day was such a busy day!… Continue reading Ah, Mother’s Day
When I found myself widowed, overwhelmed, lost and lonely, I was very far from a place of self-awareness and understanding that would enable me to make good choices for myself concerning the people you should choose to have around you. Being suddenly disconnected from the life you'd known for many years and the profound silence… Continue reading The (Wrong) Guys you Meet (and Endure) Before Finally Figuring it Out
Over the years and perhaps even throughout time, parents have lamented about the unbridled joy of raising a teenager. Sometimes I envision a young, prehistoric teen stomping out of the family cave, furious over her parent's refusal to let her go to the meat festival wearing furs that short, including the eye rolling. In my… Continue reading Abandon all hope…ye who enter here and other thoughts on raising a new teenage girl
For MANY years, I sought tirelessly to find something that I could do to generate money that would enable me to stay home and take care of both children. Even when my husband was alive, I didn't get a lot of support from him and was basically on my own when it came to the… Continue reading Oh, so you don’t work? and other statements/questions that keep you on the brink of being arrested.
It took me (and is still taking by all realistic accounts) quite a long time to even begin to contemplate and comprehend being alone as a positive thing. Solitude is underrated, as we as human beings tend to flock towards being social. Terms like "close-knit neighborhood" and "cliques" and "belonging" to a book club/gym/group etc… Continue reading The Delicious Reveling in Being Alone